Boundaries Boundaries are a very important part of life. They give us the ability to say “no” when necessary. Without boundaries, we could be used or taken advantage of. An individual who cannot draw healthy boundaries is a danger to themselves.
Learning the lesson of boundaries is important for a child because it will give them the confidence to resist when they are being pressured to engage in dangerous activities with friends, or when unsafe adults try to trample their boundaries. Setting boundaries as an adult will help your child to maintain mutually beneficial friendships where they are not being used, and will help them to avoid personal burnout – whether physical or emotional.
Teach your child boundaries first and foremost by respecting theirs. It is not easy to hear the word “no” from your child, but it is part of how they form their boundaries with other people. Help them learn ways to say it to you respectfully, but give them the opportunity to say it, and to make their own choices as often as possible. Let your child hear you say “no” to other people when you are asked to do something you don’t have the time or energy for. Example is the best teacher.
Commitment Commitment means keeping the promises you made long after you lose the feeling of inspiration you had when you made the promise in the first place. Commitment is what gives you a reputation of being true to your word, and it is a huge part of being dependable and trustworthy. When you take commitment seriously, you make the world a better place for everyone around you.
Commitment will help your child be a valuable team player in regards to any group they are part of, and will set the stage to give them the practice of being a committed adult. As an adult, commitment will give your child the integrity necessary to keep their promises even when they no longer want to. It will make them a better partner, parent, employee, employer and friend. It will put them a step above the rest of the individuals around them.
Teach your child commitment by encouraging them to stick with their decisions. If your child has signed up for a season of basketball, encourage them not to drop out unless a serious reason permits it. Set the example of a committed person by not dropping out of your own responsibilities. Set this example, especially in your relationship with your child. If you promise your child an ice cream, make sure you keep the promise. If you promise to be at their big game or recital, be there.
There are many lessons that are valuable to a child as they grow up. The ones I’ve covered in this series serve as a great start in preparing a child to be a healthy adult, and a valuable member of society. Teach these lessons with love, and in the best interest of your child. Model each of these lessons, for they mean nothing if we do not hold ourselves to the same standard. As it is said, practice what you preach. Parenting a child and giving them all the lessons they need to live a good life is not an easy task, but it can be done. If you missed any part of the series don’t worry.
My downloadable ebook titled “Lessons Every Child Needs To Learn and How To Teach Them”, contains everything I covered in this blog series. Simply click on the title.
Start with this list and add on to your child’s life education as you see fit. Your hard work will not go unrewarded. You will be pleased to someday see your child loving themselves, and working hard to serve both themselves and those around them. These life lessons will go a long way in making the world a better place.
Beverly Jones-Durr is a Dynamic Speaker, Author, Artist, Certified Life/Business Strategist, and Founder of Every Child Has a Story. She is also known as the “Clarity Ninja and Mindset Shifter” because she teaches clients, consultants and other service professionals how to eliminate the fog, remove the clutter and shift their focus to their purposeful and intentional path so that they can get stuff done.